Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. Someone who has good self-esteem likes themselves and believes that they are as good as anyone else, while someone with poor self-esteem believes that they are inferior to others or not as good as others. Those who have poor self-esteem tend to focus on and magnify their perceived shortcomings, and ignore their strengths and achievements. An analogy might be that it’s like looking into the mirror and seeing a warped picture – like the ones at fun parks that make you look distorted,
Low self-esteem can affect how you feel, the way you relate to other people, how you deal with challenges and how relaxed and safe you feel in your day to day life.
In order to be happy you need to like yourself. If you believe that you are not OK, or if you are constantly putting yourself down, you are more likely to feel depressed, anxious or miserable than someone who has a positive view of themselves.
Low self-esteem can also influence the way you behave with other people. People with low self-esteem often find themselves being unassertive and may have trouble expressing how they think or feel often doing things that they don’t want to do. The ultimate people pleasers – they agree to do things in order to ‘earn’ the friendship of others. Low self-esteem can also cause you to seek reassurance from your friends, because deep down, you may not be sure that they like you. You find yourself allowing others to ‘walk all over you’ or treat you like a doormat because you believe you have no rights or that your needs don’t matter, this type of treatment can reinforce the belief that you are not good enough, and impact on your self-esteem even more.
Stuart can empower you with the tools and strategies to improve your self image and challenge negative thought patterns!